BD really did transform me into a much more caring, warm and loving person. Anyway, I stuck with those 180's until she moved out and at that point I detached to give her the time and space she wanted.
I know what you mean. I can't believe how calmer person I am today. I mean I always had to be right to be happy. When I got my way I felt accomplished but was I happy? Honestly I don't know. Despite the situation I can definitely say I am happier with myself. I've learned to let things go, be patient (very patient) and be more loving.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
It's really hard for a WAS to get the space they need if they stay at home. There are a lot of threads on here where the WAS has stayed at home and the relationship has been in a miserable limbo for years.
That's my fear. I don't think he has a clear plan as to how and when to move out. I probably have more ideas for him at this point (how we do finances and how he should furnish etc) Of course I'm not going to help him with that but I'm just saying. I wonder if I should show him how we'd handle finances etc once he finds an apt so he can focus on finding an apartment... or am I helping him too much in my mind.. I like planning things! I can't help it
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
