Cake-Eating..I just don't understand

[tiredndrained]

Your H sounds a lot like mine except mine hasn't moved out. He sleeps in a different room and basically says the same stuff about being unhappy for years. My H did have an affair and would never admit it until I found out by accident. He also bought a sports car and if we had the money would probably have left by now. I hope you don't have the same situation with an OW. It complicates raw emotions even more.

At present, my H has been nicer and doing family stuff but still won't commit any further. It is very frustrating to say the least. I can't offer much in advice since I'm dealing with the same thing but at least you know you are not alone. This website is great when you feel like noone in the world understands what you are going through and find someone else that is in a similar sitaution.

These men in MLC are very selfish. They only think about themselves. My H went to a funeral yesterday at 9AM and didn't come home til 3AM. He runs away every night and will look for any reason to leave the house and then he doesn't return til the morning. Blames me for all of it. It is sad that they can't seem to find any happiness within themselves but choose to blame their spouse for their problems. We also have been together for 17yrs and have two S. My H also comes from a bad family life. I read in different places that has a lot do with MLC. Not sure if that is true or not. Hugs to you!!