Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[hopefulinga]

The ILY is encouraging. Maybe this time apart will give him some more time to think. I can imagine that you are both in difficult spots in trying to juggle this.

I have some of the same feelings regarding my H. Some days, I honestly don't think he is capable of giving me what I need in a relationship emotionally. It was there to start with, but quickly left after the "new" wore off.

I can remember asking him about flowers, cards, etc. and he said something to the effect that he got me down to GA and didn't have to work as hard any more. I also asked about why he didn't tell me that I looked nice, etc. after he loaded comments on a friend's wife in front of me and he said that I should know he thinks I look good, etc.

I get all of the "one person can change a relationship" stuff, but I also know that we can't change these mindsets of our H's and all of the negativity. Those are things that they have to work on. It goes back to his feelings of not being good enough.