Trying to move forward

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Sounds very positive. But, don't forget the advice from the veterans.

Continue working on yourself. Enjoy the positives but don't get ahead of yourself.

That is definitely nice that she mentioned dating again but make sure before that you get advice from those who have been there before. You don't want to blow it.

By the way, my wife was put on zoloft for sudden anxiety attracts she started having before BD. There was no OM yet and our M seemed fine. 4 weeks later her therapist doubled her dose.

Then a guy started messaging her on FB and an EA began. Within 2 weeks of doubling the dosage of the meds, she wants a divorce to be with OM.

I too looked at a lot of research regarding ssri meds online. Many MANY studies show an emotional blunting, especially towards a life long spouse. I saw a board where there were literally hundreds of posts by people who had gone through this, either as the WAS or son to be, or the LBS.

I tried to talk to wife about this and so did her mom but she said 'I am on anti depressants now. I have never seen my life so clearly. I want a divorce.'

Talk to her therapist about it, she 'evaluated' my wife and saw no medicinal response to be alarmed about. Even though in all my W sessions with her.before the meds, my W never once mentioned she was unhappy in our marriage.

But anyway, as they say on this forum, you can't change that. You can.change you, and perhaps your wife will notify.

Good luck i'm following your sitch and rooting for you!