One thing I left out was that my DB coach was actually telling me to drop the rope, i.e., go along with moving out, agree with w and actually do it so that we could find one thing to agree upon together, to be on the same page about. She was saying I should emphasize a "collaborative effort". She thought this has got to happen to preserve the ability to be good co-parents.
She also suggested a "nesting" situation, where we rent an apt and take turns staying in it so that the kids never have to leave the house.
I dunno, all of you make sense. I love my w, but this has been taking a toll on all of us and it's so strange living in the house together without love. I'm sure my kids feel it and wonder by now why daddy and mommy don't sleep together.
I made a few big mistakes last fall by being too emotional, but now I think I'am a little better and so far this month the worst mistake I made was to let out a few little jabs. (I know how bad they are Regretful and I won't do that again either)
Maybe if I stay in the house and continue to DB, things may change over time.
My worry is that my very stubborn w who seems to have made up her mind a long time ago and is determined and set to get her way, will not change her mind.
No use worrying about something I have no power over. My guess is she will move out if I don't.
I guess my big question now is, How do I stay in the house and still "drop the rope", so that she and I aren't in a tug of war.?
Me:46 W:40 M:10 T:17 D:9 S:6 BD:12/11 ILYBINILWY:8/12 Served 2/13 I moved out 2/13 I moved back 6/13 W moved out 9/13
