I read your threads recently and they are just so inspirational.
Thank you so much! There will be a happy ending regardless, I hope that it's reconciliation but if it isn't I will still continue on with a great life!
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I don't think I should energetically encourage him to move out but my H seems kind of like your wife that his thinking time won't start until he moves out.
It's really hard for a WAS to get the space they need if they stay at home. There are a lot of threads on here where the WAS has stayed at home and the relationship has been in a miserable limbo for years.
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AS - I saw in your post that your wife was cold and distant when you guys were under the same roof but you also said you'd spend a lot time with her and kids. How was it like?
I knew from the moment of BD that W planned on moving out, so I made the decision not to detach until she moved out. While she was at home I would instead concentrate on my 180's. One of her complaints was that I was cold and distant during the M (she was towards me as well, but 180's are not about her) so I wanted to show her how things could be with a warm and loving me. It wasn't acting, BD really did transform me into a much more caring, warm and loving person. Anyway, I stuck with those 180's until she moved out and at that point I detached to give her the time and space she wanted.
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Did you do your own thing with or wo kids on the weekends?
While she was still here we continued to do everything together. After she moved out we've continued to do some things together (things like S10's basketball games and D16's drill team performances) but also do things on our own with the kids on our respective weeks.
