Man, you are asking the questions the wrong way, that is why you are not seeing a solution. The question is not what she wants and how she will react. You need to do what YOU think is best for YOU and YOUR kids. Not what you think you need to do so that she reacts the best way for you.
Originally Posted By: nailinthecoffin
... your w is now threatening to move out and serve you with a D because you didn't move out, isn't it time to accept that she's made up her mind and there's nothing you can do to change it?
You really cannot do anything to do to change your wife's mind. That does not mean that you do what she tells you to. She is threatening, this is her problem. She has been threatening since when? I have been following your topic for a while. She has been threatening for a while. But has not left. What she does is her problem, not yours. If she threatens to take the kids with her - this is something you need to discuss IMMEDIATELY with your L. BTW your L is telling you not to move out. You pay him money, listen to him or get a second and third opinion.
Originally Posted By: nailinthecoffin
do I make an appointment for mediation, get all my legal ducks in order, move out and co-parent separated continuing to DB hoping for her to come around. (this would make her happy because it's what she wants)
Do you want a divorce? Why do you want mediation? You need mediation when you want divorce.
Get all your legal ducks in order for sure. Be prepared! But don't do anything.
Don't do anything to get a reaction from your W. Nothing you do now will make her happy. You winning $250,000,000 from the lottery and giving it all to her, will not make her happy. So, do not chose your actions based on what she will think about it.
So, stay home. Don't talk to her unless you have to, be nice to her when you do talk to her, and take care of your kids and yourself.
Originally Posted By: nailinthecoffin
She is totally done with me, she feels no love for me, she doesn't kiss me, we have not slept together or ML in 6 months, she just wants me out of her life and she wants to move on. All the fighting for our M I've done has not helped at all. She will not read anything I ask her to, she will not respond to any talk of R, she only responds to me talking about mediation,separation,and D.
She is done with you - that is fine. This may change or not change. This is none of your business though. So do not even think about it (as much as possible). Act as if you are happy that she does what she thinks is best for her.
Stop asking her to read stuff to do stuff! Don't talk about R at all!!! Let her be. And maybe she will never leave the house.
