You are awesome Ruby. I would tell you the same thing. Amazing, isn't it. I guess if it were easy, there would be no divorces or at least no one struggling through them. Together it is! She did love the fact I lived on my own when we met and was blown away I could cook etc when we dated. I would make her dinner all the time. She was not used to that. I am picky about hygiene etc. she loves that. She feels it is more of the confidence piece and that I gave up on myself. I was so busy with everything else, I did forget about myself, and my R with my W. we both did that though. I believe I had my confidence, but was unhappy but after the A, well that sent the confidence to a low I was unfamiliar with and struggled with it. My confidence is returning but likely late, and the bitterness in both of us makes connection impossible. I think my 180's I may have come off as angry as opposed to moving on. I stayed out of her way and did not communicate with her for months. Mimicked her in the ignoring and no responding and cold shoulder. It was unnatural for me. I am a talker.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
