Thanks everyone, I admit that sometimes I need a little help here to carry on. Not sure what I'd do without you all!

VG, I believe you are correct, nothing good would have come from asking her if she thought she was special after singing the song. I'm glad I kept my pie hole shut.

Originally Posted By: T^2
Sounds like she is really turned within, in withdrawal, re-read the stages of MLC here....

Personally, I would let sleeping cats lay for a while longer. And that is what I am doing right now as my W is seemingly in a similar phase...


Thank you T. Read about stages, don't kick sleeping cats. Will do!

Originally Posted By: snodderly
FY, your wife has a ways to go and the best thing you can do is just let her be. If you don't know what to say, listen to what she says and follow her lead, but don't try to have any conversations w/her about the relationship just yet. She's not ready to have them.

Sit quietly and the answers will come in due time.


I know you are right, snodderly, but damn do I get fidgety when she is so checked out!

Ok, so my wife pleasantly surprised me twice in the last two days.

Last night she was planning on going to a 50% off sale at one of her favorite clothes stores. (She's quite a miser for a MLC'er, lol) and I was going to a concert with a friend. My friend backed out and when wife learned I was considering not going by myself she offered to skip going to her store and join me instead! There was no great connecting or conversation between us, but we did both enjoy the show.

Then this morning, we were discussing my youngest brothers out of state wedding which is coming up in June. She said she wasn't sure if she could go because that's her busy period at work, and she probably would already be taking time off that month for our 30th anniversary! While I already knew she didn't seem to be moving forward with leaving or ending the marriage, it was still nice to hear. And snodderly you would be proud to know I didn't comment on it at all.

"Sit quietly and the answers will come"

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl