TheUF - Changing gears - Dropping the rope?

[25yearsmlc]

I think she's given you several hints about wanting to see if things could be better with you. Remember that

she will only come home to reconcile IF & ONLY IF

she believes, marriage to you can be better/different than before.

Your job is showing her that it could be.

While I agree....(and you know I luv ya 25 )

I think that this could be expanded a little more...


I think HIS job is actually being better, regardless whether or not she chooses to see it. She may never choose that, yet it doesn't mean that UF shouldn't decide to do better...regardless.

Then, after time and consistent actions , she will either believe it or not, but that will be on her. Either way, UF will be better because of it.

Yes, she WILL need to see it...

I just don't think he should focus on showing her anything right now....

But hey, that's just me....

I AGREE Mach1 and I should have been clearer...

Though it's a paradox and too confusing for some, the paradox and irony is...

that the best most likely way TO GET The WAS back,

is to learn that you'll be fine even if they do not return.

Learn not to hang your future on whether they return and

maybe plan on them NOT coming home but you being happy anyhow.


Speaking from my own story, it was when I assumed things were over BUT I was fine, things were going to go well for me/the kids, REGARDLESS....

then h seemed to turn around on his path. And he had to convince ME to reconcile, so yes in a way I had become the WAS then.

But you cannot do this FOR the reconciliation. It must be done FOR YOU to move forward. If she returns, you decide what needs doing to Piece.

If she does not return, you're better off on your own , that much faster.