He said it’s taking a toll on him by living like this, he felt distancing himself would help reinforce with me his feelings that he knows he’s doing the best thing for him and he’ll move out pretty soon.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Sometimes separation is needed for the real healing to begin.
AS - Thank you for your input and more books for me to read! I read your threads recently and they are just so inspirational. I think both you and Breakdown are onto something. I don't think I should energetically encourage him to move out but my H seems kind of like your wife that his thinking time won't start until he moves out. He seems cold, distant and mostly sad.. that I don't think he can really think as long as he's here. AS - I saw in your post that your wife was cold and distant when you guys were under the same roof but you also said you'd spend a lot time with her and kids. How was it like? Did you do your own thing with or wo kids on the weekends?
He had a birthday recently and while I usually pick a card that says I love you and stuff but I chose a card that said wherever the year takes ahead hope it's happy.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
