I am not familiar with the D process in the UK, but I'm guessing that it's a long process and will take a while. Why would your H hold the process? Didn't he say you deserved someone better and rejected your offer to reconcile? Is the reason financial?
If he is "served" he'll have no option but to acknowledge it.
Try to see your H with compassion and kindness. He behaved like a bully and a jerk, but if you remain peaceful and positive, the process will be a lot smoother.
Good call on taking your new R slowly. Keep that up.
Good call on not answering his texts. He can call if he needs to talk to you.
I gather your H suffers from low self-esteem, and he is afraid. Nothing you can do about it.
