Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[FloydMan]

My pleasure. I wish my W sought advice like you and tried to see the other point of view. It is tough to do so I congratulate you and respect you for that. I am glad i saw your points of view, but maybe a year too late unfortunately. He will at some point and maybe he already does see your points too. There is middle ground. What truly bothered me most was the fact I worked so hard at understanding how that could happen. It took a lot of pride to swallow and self reflection then W begged back in 2 x and still there was no effort on her part to restore trust and blames me for everything and then walks after she had time to plan. The A aside, the dysfunction that neither of us dealt with was a two way street. They were very common issues too of being busy with work, kids, etc etc that connection was lost. It was typical and fixable. I never did anything betrayal wise.
So, the A will be a side issue to deal with but it is a symptom of the other issues. The issues will be easier to handle if the symptoms are relieved or at least in tandem.