Yes, your expectations are too high. He is scared and nervous too. Trust me, he is not looking for sympathy, he feels embarrassed by it. It is nothing a man, or likely a woman too would like to admit happening to them. Definitely re-read those books and if he would that would be good too, but don't pressure him. As the hurt spouse myself, I got a lot out of them. I do think you are being picky how he words the timing. Again, one day, one week, 8 weeks, 2 months etc...don't split hairs. It is trivial. Don't worry about the wedding ring. If your vows were like ours when you wed, the ring was given to you as a sign of his love and fidelity. You gave him his ring as a sign of your love and fidelity. This is why I took mine off for several months until she recommitted and then it went south again because of the trust piece was never dealt with. He may need privacy too and lock his phone. Don't think the worst of it as it could be that he is getting positive support from someone or group etc....kinda like this. Frame things positively as you said. Remember, he said he wanted to work on it. That is a big statement, but he is nervous to be hurt again.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
