It's normal to be scared, but you are going to be fine. You have to get through the proceedings and allow the dust to settle before you realize just how much weight that you've been carrying around on your shoulders I know that you are thinking about the future, but only think about today or tomorrow. You can plan all you want for the future, but something will come along and your plans will change.
You don't know what the future holds. Maybe you and your h will reconcile at some point, but for now, let's hope and pray and he can be civil and play an active role in your children's lives.
Hang in there. I know you've got a lot of things running through your mind....
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.