Right, that's why as soon as I got that snippit of a thought I realized it was a bad idea. Focusing on her and not me, trying to manipulate which is in itself fake. So when i get those passing thoughts I'm asking myself the question, getting myself to slow down before acting or overthinking things.
Damn, she tried calling me right about noon today while I'm at work. Ignored the call since I'm at work and get the immediate text, "hey I got a question for you is just too much to text can you call me thanks"
I haven't called or responded at all. I have no idea what this could be and I know I shouldn't worry, but worry I do. I'm leaning towards just waiting until I'm home from work and texting back, "I'm home from work and can talk now if you want."
I hate how she always wants me on the phone, it puts me on the spot. If I try and talk right away I get accused of interrupting and talking over her...if I'm quiet for 5 seconds she's asking if I'm still on the line. I do worry that she's going to ask me something that puts me on the spot while on the phone. I like the texts because at least then I can read it, think about it, and decide how I want to respond.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
And if you're not fast on your feet, there is nothing wrong with saying, "I have to think about that. Can I get back to you with an answer" or something along those lines. You don't always have to respond immediately.
I personally think voice conversations are better. Text often leaves insight to interpretation. I can persoally read negative in, "Have a good day" if my mind is in the wrong place.
I wish my W wanted to speak over the phone more. All we do is text for the most part. I hate it!
The problem is she has often ambushed me on the phone, it starts off innocent and then turns ugly and ends up with the interrupting, me being quiet while she rails, or a few times me just hanging up and then I'm accused of being the immature one.
I know I should be happy that she wants to talk. I try and tell myself that maybe since I've backed off she's being drawn back in. Guess I'll find out in a few hours, by then another posibility is going to be getting ignored or a reply text "nevermind" if it was something she needed earlier in the day or she just got pissed b/c I didn't respond.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
Wow, just a bit after 5 her best friend who is a guy comes into my store. At first he just asks customer questions. Then loudly with other customers and employees around asks me if she's moved out. I tell him I don't want to talk about it b/c I'm at work. I have to tell him 3 times that I don't want to talk about anything to do with her. Then he mentions how he doesn't know what's going on and pissed her off b/c he doesn't know if he can make it to the kids birthday party. I say that's too bad and he leaves shortly after without buying anything. This is just after a couple days ago her good female friend came in and didn't buy anything.
Brings up something else though. Oldest boy and babies 1st birthday are both the first week of Feb. I want to get them small gifts, will this mess up my DBing? I'm NOT doing it as manipulation, I WANT to do it and I HATE I'm going to miss their birthdays.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
Just texted her that I could talk and got this as a reply, "I found it then thanks. I needed my dress pants and I found two of them.". I replied "ok". Once again, something fairly simple that could've been texted but wasn't.
So I wonder if it's just as you say MrBond about her doing better on the phone or if this is her starting to soften a bit since I've backed off.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
