It saddens me to realize that I was able to contribute to this posting in the first half of 2010 and while I have gotten out of the situation which caused me to be SSM, I still haven't gotten my sex life the way I would like it.
My SSM was starting in splotches around 2007.5, when I got evidence of the wife at the time cheating on me. Occasionally she would still [censored] me to "get her some", but then in our fight she shut me all the way off.
To stay in a SSM position is a passive position, and the passivity also penetrates other areas of your life.
