I would not say "it's that easy" b/c you are trying to show her a new you &you are hurt. Stop looking at the FB and don't rush to pack her stuff yet if you want to keep the road home, paved and smooth.
Don't make it harder for her to come home than it already would be. Don't tell everyone "she LEFT me!" The more people who know, the worse it is for her and the harder it is for a reconciliation.
Or do you want to "teach her a lesson"? Don't.
My DB coach said "it's NOT the job of the spouse to 'teach a lesson' or 'show the consequences of'...that is just an LBSer getting punitive & looking mad, which is not attractive. Life teaches them lessons.
You say you acted like a single man when married. What does that mean?
You also didn't do much to help HER and you only wanted to touch her if it meant sexually. Those are not small items to work on. Have you read the Div Busting or Div Remedy book yet? If you can, if it's not awkward, try to give her a hug of friendship, like you have warm NON sexual feelings for her, (she KNOWS you are attracted to her. She wants to know you LOVE and RESPECT her too).
Do/Say things that show love/respect. Not just the desire to be gratified, b/c that can make a woman feel used over time. you really need read one of the DB books though, before we can get very far here. My 2nd suggestion for reading is "The Five Love Languages" by Chapman.
It'll show you why her "Love tank" is so empty sounding and possible ways for YOU to re-fill it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
