He finally said he was sorry for all the gloomy talk but he felt like I was sending a signal that I don't want to deal with him anymore. And then went in to say that this was the first week I hadn't voiced any feelings or tried to make plans with him.
He feels you pulling back, and he doesn't like it. Good! Let him feel that.
Originally Posted By: Lovemyfamily
I feel like I should tell him I'm distancing a little to keep my heart from getting hurt, which is partly the reason. Obviously I can't tell him it's wryly because he needs to realize that living like this is not ok with me, the cake eating.
I think the pros would not to recommend telling him that. I am by no means knowledgable about all of this, but I would compare it to telling everyone what cards you have in your hand at a poker game. Don't tell him, SHOW him instead. Do it by detaching and GAL and setting YOUR boundaries.
You want your H to know that you would like to work on the marriage...if he doesn't, that's okay. However, you are strong and confident and will be moving on with your life, with him or without him.
