Wow, have things changed

[leopoldstotch]

Tallula take your time with this decision and I'm sure you are. Make sure you are very specific in what you need from him. The fact that he is freaking out about "feeling spied on" is very telling as you know he brought this on himself. Without trust you have nothing and your H needs to earn your trust BIG TIME.

I mean this with all the respect in the world but I was thinking how your sitch really is an abusive R. He may not be doing you any physical harm but I know it's taking an emotional toll on you. Be strong and stand up for yourself. Respect yourself and don't fall for his lies. I'll be here for you.