I just blew months of DBing and likely lost my family and any chance with W. If I were her I wouldn't R with me.
You can't go around walking on eggshells all the time, if you have to live like that around W then the M will never work out. Ask yourself this, if your M were good and healthy and this had happened, what would have been the result? Maybe a day of the silent treatment followed by hot monkey love. Or maybe you both would have laughed it off after realizing the mistake. A single event did not degrade your M to the point it's at now and a single event is not going to make or break it. Bad and stupid things are ALWAYS going to happen in a M and if we can't bounce back from them, well the M is doomed. You apologized, so it's done. Keep moving forward with your DB'ing. If that's unforgivable in your wife's eyes then she's just looking for an excuse to beat you up anyway.
I want to share with you a similar story- when I edge my yard before I mow it I pick up all the cigarette butts (would love to find the idiot that throws them in my yard and beat him senseless, but that's another story, LOL!) and stick them in my pocket. When I finish my edging I toss them in the trash. Well once I apparently forgot. My W did the laundry and pulled D15 aside and wanted to know why she found butts in her clothes. Poor D15 was scrambling, said that it must have been one of her friends. Boy did she get read the riot act by W. We were all out to dinner one night when W told me what had happened and they were trying to figure out which of D15's friends was secretly smoking. I knew right away what had happened and I was laughing so hard I couldn't even explain it to them. Literally, tears were running down my face. Pretty soon they were all laughing just because I was, they didn't even know why. I finally did settle down long enough to tell them what had happened and then we all started laughing again!
