Not sure what reaction he was looking for, but was looking for one. He finally said he was sorry for all the gloomy talk but he felt like I was sending a signal that I don't want to deal with him anymore. And then went in to say that this was the first week I hadn't voiced any feelings or tried to make plans with him. Which I actually just responded for him to read that again - he doesn't get it. Maybe if you want to do something with me you should ask!
We are supposed to talk in person tomorrow. Shall see where that goes. I feel like I should tell him I'm distancing a little to keep my heart from getting hurt, which is partly the reason. Obviously I can't tell him it's wryly because he needs to realize that living like this is not ok with me, the cake eating.