She'll sit in the floor and play with her, or pick her up and sit on the couch with her and just start talking. I stay out of it then and lots of times the tv will be on, or I'll be playing a game.
How about when she comes over, the TV is already off and you're playing with Jordan? You aren't going to see your W for very long during these trade offs, so show her a snapshot of a Dad that would rather play with his D than a video game! You do spend time with her and play with her, right? Show your wife that. It's attractive
Originally Posted By: Dewayne
Now, for the "arguments" they're not arguments. They're her getting irate and coming off subject.
No, that actually IS an arguement! To be honest, you kind of initiated it. Before you start any more conversations, try to picture how your questions and reactions will play out. I bet you may have known before hand how this convo was going to end....ask youself that. Did you expect her reaction would be negative?
If you feel you HAD to have this conversation, it could have gone like this....
Me: Did you start cutting your Celexa pills in half?
Her: Yes I did. And half of those I will cut in 1/4s.
Me: Great!
Originally Posted By: Dewayne
Her behavior is erratic. She was NEVER like this before. She never snapped. Never raised her voice at me or Jordan. She is fighting something. Since I've realized this, I've learned to become much more bending to her and trying to learn ways of calmly shutting her episodes down.
Her behavior is erractic becuase she is struggling with her decisions. Her mind is as muddy as yours right now. She probably doesn't know which way is up either. It is good that you are recognizing this and remaining calm. One thing I would recommend though, don't "shut her down". No matter how you go abot this, it will come off as condesending and controlling. Just validate her "you seem angry and you have the right to be"....validate her and she will calm herself down. A much better approach.
