Sunny I have not been around in a while but I do check in from time to time. You continue to get some very good advice for Snodderly and others.
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I go out on weekends to – I hate doing it but I won’t just sit around waiting for her anymore
Why do you “hate doing it”? Why do you feel like you are sitting around waiting for her? Standing is not about standing still! Personally, you should not be sitting around waiting for her. You should be figuring out what you want in YOUR life. You should be doing things that bring you closer to YOUR dreams. Things to do not involve your W. Oh…if you hate going out, then don’t. Sunny, your post screams FEAR, which I totally understand. You are praying but do YOU trust God? Do you think God wants you to feel the way you are feeling? I would bet not – that said, what are doing to not feel this way?
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Do you think I should say $hit or get off the pot
Personally, I think you want to say this but your not ready…not yet. Never ask a question that you are not ready for the answer to. Are you really ready for her to say..”yeah..F it, I’m outta here”? I bet not. Think for a second here….are you asking HER to make the CHOICE for you? Before you ask a question…before you talk to your W..even if it is to discussion the issues you want to talk about, consider this… 1) What is your goal of the conversation? 2) Are you having the conversation, so that you can try to manipulate, persuade, control or guilt her? 3) Are you skimping on your ability to make a choice and putting the pressure on her to make on? 4) Does this conversation align with YOUR goals (note – not HERS – YOURS!) 5) Deep down inside are you afraid of the answer you will receive? 6) Do you really need an answer from her? 7) Is the conversation worthwhile – will it add to your stress or reduce it? Sunny – we cannot control or change someone. We can only control and change ourselves. Life is short buddy….try and spend it happy. God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
