Slow down...take a breath...try to calm your self.
I "think" your husband is showing a few things. First of all he is questioning why you are not acting the way he EXPECTS you to act. That might very well mean your 180's are working, which is a good thing! Keep that up. It is bound to make him a little confused and that will likely lead him to question his choices. You have to keep in mind that your H is also very confused and frusturated at this time. He has a lot of conlfict running through his head. These choices he is making do not come easily. So, he is trying to reassure himself that he is doing the right thing. He does this by testing you. He is basically trying to trick you into showing the reaction that he expects. He wants to have "the real you" show her face so that he can reassure himself that he has been right in his thinking all along. DO NOT GIVE HIM THAT! Cool, calm and collected is the name of the game. Work as hard as you can to stay on an even keel. The more consistant you can be, the more doubt and internal struggle he will have. It's tough to do...that's why they call it the "rollercoaster". Just think of the scary stuff as part of the ride. Keep DBing and try to be as detached as possible. I know that's hard, but the more you work at it the easier it gets.
