Quick note to Sweetbaby--I meant to say that I'm NOW familiar with your story. I wrote "not familiar." ________________________
I'm staying home with a bad cold. I hadn't been sick in about 5 years! Go figure. Anyway, my coach told me my H and I needed to have "closing conversations," but I don't see us having those conversations in the near future, so I wrote down a note to my H to tie all the loose ends.
I read the note, and it's hard to not sound patronizing or accusing. I can rewrite it but then I won't be true to my real thoughts and feelings. Here is a sample paragraph:
"You said that even though it sounded terrible, you wanted to see what was out there, and if you couldn’t find someone who could meet your needs better than me, you might try to come back to our relationship. I would like you to be aware that I haven’t been romantically involved with anyone because we’re still married, but once the divorce is finalized, one of my main goals will be to remarry as soon as possible. Who knows when that will happen, but it is my goal. I’m not closing my mind and heart to a possible future for us as a couple, but if I find someone else to love and who loves me the way I want to be loved, I will shut the door for the sake of my new relationship."
Look forward to your thoughts. I could always forget about the closing convo/note thing but then I'll be holding a lot of stuff inside.
