NG, The phase you are in right now was probably one of the hardest phases in my D process....
.... but it is also a time that i can look back at and be most thankful for.
There are those who walk away from sitches because they are driven by fear.. there are those who walk away because they are driven by love. I believe you are the latter.
As you continue down this path, you have to hold onto that. That you are doing this out of love.. because honestly nothing else matters in this world than to show love to others and yourself.
But love is not always easy. It often requires sacrifice and comes with pain. If it were easy we wouldn't have such a high divorce rate, or absent parents.. we wouldn't stop being friends with a person who disagreed or held us accountable....we wouldn't be so quick to blame others vs. looking in the mirror.
... but then again.. there would be nothing good on tv either.
You may not understand and your wive may not understand why you have THIS road at THIS part of your life... it's okay.
But know that the higher road is one with much more difficulties but absent of very few regrets.
One day it will make sense.. to both you and her. One day you will look back and know that it was a needed choice. Not only to move forward.. but to move BETTER in your life.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
