Can't tell you how calming it is to know that other WAHs say the same things.
Loved this: "Sorry Charlie, it don't work that way. You don't get to control everything."
That's just what I want to say!
Your post has given me strength to carry on - sometimes i doubt my own reasoning in the face of comments about money from him.
My H's fantasy bubble has still to pop.
S14 and I experienced a surreal moment yesterday as I was driving him home from camp.
We pulled up on a red light at an intersection near our home where a fancy hotel/restaurant has a sidewalk eating area.
There was H in all his glory (& wearing his black suit, complete with jacket in the 37degree heat of the midday sun) eating a big plate of restaurant food and drinking a bottle of wine. A down-market business man was seated opposite him.
Our car stopped right next to H's table and if we'd wound down the window, we could have reached out and touched him. The red light seemed to stay on for ages, and S14 and I just looked at him. From the expression on his face and his body language, he knew we were there, but he did not acknowledge either of us.
What a strange moment.
Crossed my mind for a second to park and send S14 in to ask H for some money for food, or money for his school books, or even to pay for his outstanding school fees from August last year... only joking.
These sorts of repeated random encounters around our 'village' make it difficult to detach completely. Every time we go out, there is a distinct possibility that we will see H or OW.
