OK I hadn't seen your new post when I was posting some cr%p about OM.

When we met she was attracted by my confidence, my ambition, my INTELLECT (BIG TIME) since she was in high school with friends who were not so smart, and I was in college getting a dual bachelors in Computer Science and Computer Engineering.

I had big plans for myself. When I read relationship books i realize that is what they call "your adventure" and women like to go on "your adventure". When my adventure wasn;t so exciting it went south. Most likely onlyh because of the effect that had on me. If I could have stayed emotionally intune with her, and also sexually, i would not be here today.

All the way to the night of BD, and even until now, she is SO nice to me. She respects me greatly (i know what she is doing is disrespectful, but I think she is a little confused as to what she wants). She loves how I am with our daughter, and sees me as the best daddy ever. Always complimenting me on how good I am with D3, and she always tells D3 that daddy loves her so much.

I am truely lost with how I should act at home. I am using the time that I GAL and 180, to show her how good I can be for her, how strong, confident, mature I am, how good of a parent I am, how much I respect her views, and share the intellectual moments that she doesn;t get with OM because she already told me he is more into his video games (which she is not!)

But how else should I be?


Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017