I don't remember it saying that in the book and it covered both sides really well. She has mentioned that she likes it because she can now see where I was coming from (before this all happened) and we are working on better ways to communicate. I will pick up another copy, though. Losing weight, going out with good friends, I did buy new clothes (I have to since I've lost so much weight) and I have been making the switch from printed t-shirts to button down nicer shirts when I go out. I use hair products (never used to before), started using cologne again. The biggest thing she had a problem with is the finances and since I handled those I think she puts a large amount of blame for them on me. So right now I am focusing on putting together a financial strategy for myself that will pay off all of my revolving debt, put money aside for a rainy day (so I don't have to rely on a credit card should something big happen, or I want to do something big), and continue saving for retirement. I am also refocusing my life back on God. I haven't been to church or talked to him in nearly 2 years. I stopped doing devotionals, and frankly stopped being the spiritual leader that He has called me to be in the household. That is something that I know she finds important.
She has told me that she is comforted knowing that I will be close by so if she wants to come over, or help me walk the dogs, watch a movie together, etc.. I am right there, but she has also said that this time for us will be good because it will give us time to "lick our wounds" and heal/grow as individuals. I agree with her, as long as I use this time wisely.
To everyone who has replied to this thread, you have been positive support for me. I am glad I found this website and the books. I have come from "My life is over" to "this is going to be a transition, and it may be painful, but it will end up being good" and I have many people to thank for that and many of them were here on these forums. Thanks
