You can't "force" someone to love you. Now you see what the problem is of your lifestyle. Because your W has the chance to love others, she's going to keep doing that to maintain that 'in love' high and not look back at you.
My opinion would be to stop the lifestyle if you're bothered by what she's doing. You could very well go off and find someone else to love and take care of their needs and neglect the needs of your W. It's a unique CONCEPT to go out and love everyone, HOWEVER, it is simply not possible to see to all the needs of an individual while doing so.
Look around on this site. People are struggling with having their needs met by 1 person. Now what if that one person split their attention between 2 or more people? You just aren't going to get your needs met. If you fell in love with someone else, it's impossible to give equal attention to both. Plus everyone's needs are different so while you may make one person happy by giving them physical attention, you can't do the same with another person who may value quality time or acts of service. Sorry but that's the reality.
"What's bothering me is that she's not showing me any love right now. My physical and emotional needs are not being met."
See?
"She better not do this. If she does, I would end this lifestyle lickety split, because I am their father and nothing is ever going to change that. "
This is what will happen. You are already seeing it.
" If W refused to end it, I would start divorce proceedings immediately."
Then you're being a hypocrite. You condone and celebrate this lifestyle. This is the consequence. You can't tell her whom she can or can't love ESPECIALLY in your lifestyle.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
