Go back and buy another copy. She already has it so you can't do anything about that. But all the questions you are asking are covered in the book. In what other ways have you worked on improving yourself. Losing the weight is a GREAT start. Have you changed anything else physically? Maybe get a few new clothes and hairstyle.
Then continue to work on your character on just the things she had issue with.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.