So, DBing, don't bring up R talks and don't pursue and such.....is there a way for me to open the door for an apology and to let her know she can talk to me when she is ready? What I want to do is apologize and let her discuss the stuff with her ex-H and what happened between me and her so that I DO understand...rather than her just getting angry at me and making accusations.
I think you're well past the point of apologies doing any good. Just make a mental note of it, if you ever get to the piecing stage you can bring it up then.
Originally Posted By: jzoom
Also, as I've thought about things and without her taking the test, the best I can determine is that her LL is "acts of service". How do I implement this now?
It sounds like you were already doing a lot of AoS before she left (cooking, housework, laundry, watching her kids). Right now it's more important that you detach and pull back then try to show her any LL work. Just back off. If she decides she wants to work on things then you can implement LL.
