but nothing really seems to change her reactions to me.
Same here.
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I am still trying to figure out ways of showing WOA.
My wife always suffered from low self esteem/social anxiety. I spent our entire relationship trying to build her up. It never seemed to help her much. Yet when another person offers her WOA, oh boy, that means a lot to her. Once, my wife even told me, "I know you offer WOA, but it's not the same as when it comes from someone else" (!)
I said maybe that's because we just expect it from our spouse, and take it for granted.
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If she doesn't notice that I am the great catch that I am, it will be her loss. She won't be able to find anyone better than me!
Some may think this is a cocky attitude, but I feel exactly the same way. Sadly, they may need to move on before they realize this.
I once asked a counselor the following question: If my wife decides to stay with me, will she always harbor regrets of what she maybe could have had if she left?
She thought for a moment and said "It depends on how she reaches that decision." Makes sense to me.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
