That's the most upsetting thing though - how happy she seems.
I see this expressed a lot on these forums, LBH's being upset because the WAS seems happy. First, she probably isn't happy, or at least not all the time. There's a lot going on inside. Second, don't you want her to be happy? If you truly love her you should want her to find happiness whether that's with you or without you. Why would her happiness upset you? These questions are rhetorical, I know why. You're hoping that if she's miserable it'll make her want to come back. It doesn't work that way though, you need to give her reasons to come back, by being the spouse only a fool would leave. And that means finding your own happiness and PMA INDEPENDENTLY of her. A WAS even if they're unhappy is not going to be drawn back to a mopey, sullen LBS. So GAL. Work on your PMA. It doesn't happen overnight, that's why it's important to work at it every day until it becomes second nature.
