So, no contact with her yesterday at all and then this morning I'm starting to get ready for work and at 8:30 I get the text, "hey are you up". I go about my business and get to work, about 10:40 I reply, "Sorry, busy morning" and about 10:45 I get back, "Its ok don't remember what I wanted".....no response from me.
Something esle I'm thinking about, and just trying to stay on track with DBing, is about her saying I violated her sexually during her sleep. Because I was groping her, hand up her shirt on her boobs, and basically on her in my sleep she felt violated.
She finally told me that her first H insists that they did stuff one time that she has no memory of, so according to her "I don't understand". I had once apologized to her and she said that it was the first time I sounded sincere, but my actions didn't back it up. That apology was prior to the info about her ex-H.
So, DBing, don't bring up R talks and don't pursue and such.....is there a way for me to open the door for an apology and to let her know she can talk to me when she is ready? What I want to do is apologize and let her discuss the stuff with her ex-H and what happened between me and her so that I DO understand...rather than her just getting angry at me and making accusations.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
