"Sorry, realized the text this morning might have come across the wrong way. I don't mean you have to move stuff out, I just moved stuff around to make room and clean up."
Was fine.
It's obvious she took it the way that I took it which is why she asked for clarification from you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
5:45 she asks if I'm going to answer her. 6:30 I respond, "Sorry, realized the text this morning might have come across the wrong way. I don't mean you have to move stuff out, I just moved stuff around to make room and clean up." 8 she responds "ok".
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
Today my friend told me that Mon night my ex texted her complaining that OM is wishy-washy. Also commented on how the house was looking organized.
Trying to celebrate the small victories here. Also trying to figure out a 2 week goal, something positive I can see in the next two weeks. Getting her and the kids to sleep at the house again might be too much for the next two weeks but I'm not sure what else I should shoot for. Maybe just her being more open with friendly communication.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
Today my friend told me that Mon night my ex texted her complaining that OM is wishy-washy. Also commented on how the house was looking organized.
This is exactly how DB'ing works. Do something for YOU and your spouse/ GF notices. Now that you've seen this one little piece of DB'ing work, why not try more? Detach. GAL. Give her time and space. Quit pursuing. Do things for you. Capitalize on her beginning disillusionment with OM and start being the BF only a fool would leave. Make yourself the better option.
This is exactly how DB'ing works. Do something for YOU and your spouse/ GF notices. Now that you've seen this one little piece of DB'ing work, why not try more? Detach. GAL. Give her time and space. Quit pursuing. Do things for you. Capitalize on her beginning disillusionment with OM and start being the BF only a fool would leave. Make yourself the better option.
For the next two weeks, when she corresponds, act as if she's not around any more. If she contacts you, just wait awhile before responding and when you do, tell her, 'sorry I was out when I got your message.' Show her that there's alot more to you than meets the eye.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Today my friend told me that Mon night my ex texted her complaining that OM is wishy-washy. Also commented on how the house was looking organized.
This is exactly how DB'ing works. Do something for YOU and your spouse/ GF notices. Now that you've seen this one little piece of DB'ing work, why not try more? Detach. GAL. Give her time and space. Quit pursuing. Do things for you. Capitalize on her beginning disillusionment with OM and start being the BF only a fool would leave. Make yourself the better option.
Yes, I was very happy when I heard that news. Even though I get those chasing urges I (in my head) yell "don't chase" and review the DB rules. As I talked with my friend I said, "well, the only think I know to do right now is just keep pulling back and being somewhat unavailable like I have over the past few days."
Originally Posted By: MrBond
For the next two weeks, when she corresponds, act as if she's not around any more. If she contacts you, just wait awhile before responding and when you do, tell her, 'sorry I was out when I got your message.' Show her that there's alot more to you than meets the eye.
Yes, pretty much figured I just have to keep being aloof no matter what I actually may be doing. I'm going to keep working on cleaning up the house a little each night so that I stay busy and things keep looking better.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
So, no contact with her yesterday at all and then this morning I'm starting to get ready for work and at 8:30 I get the text, "hey are you up". I go about my business and get to work, about 10:40 I reply, "Sorry, busy morning" and about 10:45 I get back, "Its ok don't remember what I wanted".....no response from me.
Something esle I'm thinking about, and just trying to stay on track with DBing, is about her saying I violated her sexually during her sleep. Because I was groping her, hand up her shirt on her boobs, and basically on her in my sleep she felt violated.
She finally told me that her first H insists that they did stuff one time that she has no memory of, so according to her "I don't understand". I had once apologized to her and she said that it was the first time I sounded sincere, but my actions didn't back it up. That apology was prior to the info about her ex-H.
So, DBing, don't bring up R talks and don't pursue and such.....is there a way for me to open the door for an apology and to let her know she can talk to me when she is ready? What I want to do is apologize and let her discuss the stuff with her ex-H and what happened between me and her so that I DO understand...rather than her just getting angry at me and making accusations.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
