W said she wants space. Cuts me off emotionally and physically at that point. Not even a gradual decline. Like falling off a cliff.
Surprisingly common. I think they do this to help themselves move on, and (as my W told me) they also think it helps the LBS to move on. It's very hard for the LBS to see the sudden change though.
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Not sure it is necessary to classify my wife as WAW or MLC or just simply fallen out of love or grown apart. Don't think that matters.
You're right, the approach is the same regardless. I think a lot of us spent too much time trying to "diagnose" our spouse when we should have been DB'ing instead.
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I just want to learn better behaviors, set goals, be patient, GAL, and start baby steps to growing closer to my wife again to give our marriage a chance to survive.
All good stuff!
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I have learned to take what my W says with a grain of salt but admit sometimes things she says get under my skin since BD.
Sometimes it will, but outwardly just show PMA and act "as if" everything is fine.
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W kept saying "you know, that friend of yours" to me. Of course, I didn't want to make a scene with our friends and never brought it up to wife but "that friend of yours" was the best man in our wedding. Of course she knew his name.
Maybe not. Have you seen any signs that she's starting perimenopause? My W is in it and her memory has really suffered as a result. She still has a good memory, but sometimes she'll just "lose" something like that. At first I was thinking "how in the world could she forget this when she remembers X, Y and Z" but I've come to learn that's the nature of it.
