The other mindset I have to get out of is "H is the enemy." I realize now that I automatically assume (most of the time) that he's against me or doing something that he "shouldn't" be doing. Who is he talking to? Where is he going? Why is he doing that? Etc...
Not sure why I am so suspicious. Maybe this all started over the summer after our bomb when he started texting and emailing all kinds of women from his past.
One interesting thing came up in our therapy session. He told the MC I was texting with OM2 for "months." Yes, that's true, it was 2 months, technically that's "months." But when you hear something is going on for "months," you think 6,7,8,9 months. Not 2 months. Anyway, that's just an example of how H's word choices make things sound worse than they are.
Since you both have this infidelity history, have the two of you discussed being on a MUTUAL transparency plan with each other? Seems to me that would help you both with the trust issues, and the anxiety?
