Also to add. Last Sunday 1/13 my W came to pick up our daughter since it was my weekend with her. Let's just say our interaction with each other was not pleasant and the D word was brought up. My W mentioned that she has not filed yet because she knows I won't sing the papers. So instead of just walking away and keeping my calm, I did the exact opposite.
I told my W that if she filed I would sign the papers, matter of fact I would do her a favor and when I got back from my new job orientation, since one of my wife's complaint was that I was not more active in the kids life and the job I had I was nt home Mondays and Thursdays.
So that Sunday night my wife text me and asked me if we could get together and talk. I asked her if she wanted a D and she said that is what she wanted to talk about.
Well on Tuesday wile at orientation, I had text my wife to let her know how much schedule was going to be and to let her know about insurance changes. And after orientation I gave her a call to confirm my schedule since it would affect me getting our daughter on my Fridays. While on the phone I should have sensed that she was in a mood about the insurance changes since our daughter currently get allergy shots and is on meds, but instead I asked about the talk she wants to have could be done over the phone or through text message. She instantly got mad at me and said "No, I want to do this in person."
Well that night I was watching TV at the hotel and saw something with Hillary Clinton and instantly thought about my wife. So me being the dummy again thought to text my W and ask her a question. "How come Hillary can forgive and stay with Bill after all these years, but you and I can't"..
She immediately replied back with " The reason I wanted to talk to you s because I think if we were to ever work this out, we need to start out as friends. But I see that will never happen."
Well I acting through emotion replied back "So you want to "friend zone" me? Was that your idea or the MC?"
Then she said "NVM leave it b it ain't going to work"
Well needless to say the guy across the hall from me at the hotel must be in a similar situation because you could hear him calling his ex and begging and pleading with her even though she is with OM. and for the 30 minutes that he was on the phone and begging and pleading it finally hit me. 1) it was pathetic what he was doing. 2) I was doing the same thing but failed to realize it. So at that moment I decided I would follow the rules that Sandi2 posted and not contact her unless she contacts me first.
So all day Wednesday we didnt talk, and then Thursday she sent me a text about dental insurance which I answered since it had to do with our daughter. Then that night when I got home I turned off my phone so i cold spend some uninterrupted time with my kids. Well I guess during that time she text message me about some tax relief paper that she wanted me to sign. So i didn't receive it until way later that night when I turned back on my phone.
So on Friday, I didn't bother to text her back or anything. So around 5pm she starts to call my phone and I left it go to VM, and she said about getting together to sign this paper so she can mail it in. Well I figured that the paper doesnt have to be in until March 1st and I was seeing our daughter next weekend so I could sign it then since it was no big deal to me. Well 5 attempted calls later. She leaves me a VM saying how I am acting immature about the situation.
So I called her back around 8pm and apologized that I was busy and didn't see the big deal of signing the paper. She told me that she wanted me to sign the paper so it can be sent in ASAP. So she asked me if I was going to be home, and I told her yeah that I had homework to do, so she laughed and said "Yeah ok homework, on a Friday night." And then went off about how she hopes I am happy with whoever I am with and she hopes the other person is happy too, and that they are happy with a cheater and someone who walks out on their family."
So she stopped over at my parents place, and I made a promise to myself that I wouldnt say anything since I know I am not in a place right now to talk with her without letting my emotions get in the way. So as I signed the paper, i turned to go back inside and I could hear her say " Have fun doing your homework, whoever she is."
