FY, I agree w/T, leave things alone for a while. You are expecting things and you must keep your expectations at zero at all times. She's processing things in her own way and you can't rush her or she'll run right back into the rabbit hole. This is a very, very slow process and it's one step forward, five steps back. In stead of focusing on what she's saying, singing or doing, turn the focus back on to you and what you can do to keep yourself busy for a while longer.
FY, your wife has a ways to go and the best thing you can do is just let her be. If you don't know what to say, listen to what she says and follow her lead, but don't try to have any conversations w/her about the relationship just yet. She's not ready to have them.
Sit quietly and the answers will come in due time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
