[quote=Intact]bTW: Is it likely that she's already "got" somebody else? I have a feeling if she hasn't already she will start "dating" very soon. I hope this could help my case and make her realise that the grass isn't always greener but I realise the pendulum could swing either way. [/quote/]
it will NOT help your case if you are not a changed man. I'm not blaming you for her decision but yes, you played a role. You're very vague about it though.
What are your 180s, other than having to clean the house now since she's not there?
And what else has SHE SAID was wrong over the years? Don't worry; we won't judge. But you've given us too little to work with here. And have you read the Div Busting or Div Remedy book yet? Do so asap.
She will not return to you UNLESS she believes that
Marriage to you, from this day forward, will be better/different than before.
Your job is SHOWING her that it will be.
Become a man only a fool would leave. Be the best father you can be. NO woman is unmoved by that.
Listen to her words carefully with full eye contact. And read the book!
Then give us more info. Tell us what SHE has said over the years. What did her family say?
Why is she so done?
Ok so the issues over the years as far as I understand are: physically pushing her away from contact unless there was sex involved, lack of financial responsibility, nagging, attitude problem and not helping enough around the house. I doing 180s on all of these - except the physical touch as there's nothing I can do with that at this point in time.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
