Snodderly thank you so much for your input and encouragment. It means alot to me.
Honestly that's what I've felt all along. XH has got some serious PTSD issues along with MLc as well. I didn't really stop to think about the time line and what he was doing was common for MLC. I do think he thought about it alot, before BD. And it was 2 years before this last BD that HE REALLY began changing, and not in good ways. It was then he became so angry, explosive, mean, cruel, and the silent treatment was worse than it ever had been. But the month before BD he flip flopped between Monster and extreme depression. He would only sleep 3-4 hours a night and his normal routine was completely different. He wouldn't speak to me, if he did it was a whisper. He wouldnt eat when he came home for lunch, he would just sleep at his desk.
Im once again a bit perturbed, due to the rudeness of it all, yet not suprised. I asked Xh if he would be up to taking D10 to Shriners for her yearly appointment for her hip. Shriners is 4.5 hours away and my vehicle isn't running so great. I wasn't too sure if I'd be able to get the van worked on before she needed to get into her appointment so I asked XH if he'd be up to taking her. I emailed him 4 days ago.
No response. He said to D10 today " Well I hope your play isn't on the day you need to go to Shriners?"
So it's clear he's purposely ignorning me. But why? Why ignore something in direct concern for our daughter? He offered last Spring to take her to the appointments if I wasn't up to it, but I told him no that the plans had already been made. That probabaly made him feel rejected.
More than likely he's going dark on me because I went dark on him Christmas time. He had this sudden surge of emails regarding the kids, Christmas vacation and sudden reports of his schedule for me, even when he didn't have the girls that week. I still got schedule. Since then I haven't gotten a single schedule report or email from him. Interesting.
What does this mean? Does it mean anything?
At any rate Im going to take his complete ignorning me and his comment to D10 as a "no" and he is not willing to take his daughter to Shriners, and I will do it myself.
