Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[mamabird]

Well I can see that one of my biggest challenges is going to be "falling in love" again. Currently, I'm not feeling much. I'm not angry, at least, but I just kind of feel numb about it all. I had really prepared to move on so I think it's going to take a while to undo that, plus, as has been discussed, I've been mentally out of this R for quite some time. I'm finding it really challenging to get my head back in the game.

I feel that it's going to be quite the uphill battle to change my patterns but I know I have to. I need to try to get back to that mindset where I didn't feel like I needed so much validation from other people. I was pretty much fine for years - for the first 8 years we were together this was not a problem for me.

How do people turn their M's around when there is not a lot of love left?