Thanks for the incite. My H actually comes over 4 days a week to get little one ready and take her to daycare, I hadn't even thought to say anything good about it (sometimes I really have to drag myself out of thoughts of how it was his choice anyway to move and make it hard on himself - and he is still a dad either way)
The music thing is tough for me. I know it is his passion and he will always do it - and used to I could be more a part of it. But it is so hard because it's like he always chooses mucis over the family, and especially over me. Your point is valid but it is just hard. He is in 3 bands now. And it feels like he has the dream of being a rockstar again, like someone is going to happen along his music and make his dreams of being famous come true. Back when our daughter was first born he quit the one band and said several times that that dream was over (and also that several of his other friends should give up on the dream bc they have families now) of course, I got the blame later for him having to leave that band, he totally went against what he used to say about him leaving it. Anyway, I do realize he is always going to be involved with music, and he is good, but sometimes it's just too much. But I digress - I will try. I have asked him about practice and stuff lately instead of blowing it all off.
Thanks for everyones help today. I'm feeling a little more 'on the right path' and more confident this afternoon. Now to go home and get the book back out....
