Dawn, Here is my two cents. Your son is a grown man at the age of 21. I would arrange a little sit down w/your alien and have your son tell him w/you there for support. The reason that I am saying your son tell him is because it is his news to share. and your alien might take it better coming from your son.
How your alien takes it will be very interesting. He may spew and lecture your son, but I think your son is man enough to tell him to shove it where the sun don't shine. If your alien doesn't like it, he as the option to either shut up or leave.
Please advise your son that he not be able to rely on his father for support right now because of him having to deal w/his own issues, but that you will be there to support him and the baby as much as possible.
Good luck and I'll be praying for you. Pray to God and ask for guidance on how to broach this subject w/your alien. I would also suggest your son pray as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
