Today my friend told me that Mon night my ex texted her complaining that OM is wishy-washy. Also commented on how the house was looking organized.
This is exactly how DB'ing works. Do something for YOU and your spouse/ GF notices. Now that you've seen this one little piece of DB'ing work, why not try more? Detach. GAL. Give her time and space. Quit pursuing. Do things for you. Capitalize on her beginning disillusionment with OM and start being the BF only a fool would leave. Make yourself the better option.
Yes, I was very happy when I heard that news. Even though I get those chasing urges I (in my head) yell "don't chase" and review the DB rules. As I talked with my friend I said, "well, the only think I know to do right now is just keep pulling back and being somewhat unavailable like I have over the past few days."
Originally Posted By: MrBond
For the next two weeks, when she corresponds, act as if she's not around any more. If she contacts you, just wait awhile before responding and when you do, tell her, 'sorry I was out when I got your message.' Show her that there's alot more to you than meets the eye.
Yes, pretty much figured I just have to keep being aloof no matter what I actually may be doing. I'm going to keep working on cleaning up the house a little each night so that I stay busy and things keep looking better.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
