AS: I know you said you went through ML initially following BD. how did you deal with that? How did you detach?
Honestly I didn't detach while W was still in the house. W felt I was cold and indifferent in the latter years before BD, so I was trying to be more attentive to her, affectionate towards her and interested in her needs. This is not detaching, but it is in keeping with the idea of doing 180's. I posted in my early thread that I was going to continue that until W moved out and would then work on detaching, and that's what I did. My thoughts were that if/ when W began missing me, she would remember the post-BD me (the husband she really wanted) rather than the cold/ indifferent me that existed before BD. And just to be clear, I wasn't acting in any of this. BD really did transform me from a detached H to one that wanted to be much closer to my W. So I was enjoying the closeness while I could.
