My S21 and his long time college girlfriend made a baby! It was just an act of nature over science! We live in a small community where they are well known and I have a limited time before we have to tell H.
Ok, so how do I tell this man who does not resemble my H, their F, or even want to be in our lives that he is going to be a grandfather - the very thing (besides getting old) that he is adamant about not facing.
I do not want to give him any attention about this if he has even the hint of spew or negativity. My efforts are for my S who is not very happy about the sitch but is taking it in day by day.
I am ready to have him take his big mouth (anticipating) and leave my home instantly, he is not my priority, this is not about him, and he will not come in and turn this into another reasons why he should be even more mad we don’t have the house we were building.
How do I tell him, do I maybe not tell him and have S do it? Do we sit together maybe and tell him? I wonder if this is why S21 tried to talk to H and offer his help, maybe he really knew he was going to need his F.
Though none of us imagine things can happen to them, I will not diminish the fact that this is a life, a life that will come into this world loved. My H loved God and is now at odds with Him, I can only pray HE will carry H through this!
Any thoughts!
ps, it really doesn't make it any easier know that he has not come home from work this morning, and is with ea helping her w/her life!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
