My Wife has walked away

[Intact]

So today my Wife packed a bag and left the family home. We have a 8 year old son and she wants 50% custody (I'm fine with this).

We only managed 2 counselling sessions and she just told me that she didn't love me anymore - in fact she told me she has no feelings for me...

I've read the book - it fits into the Walkaway Wife category perfectly...

I presume they don't often come back?

I did speak to her tonight and she told me "her mind had never been clear" is this a normal thing to say?

My Son is distraught and it is truly heart wrenching.

Any advice would be most welcome.

Thank you.

[Intact]

Should say she said her mind had never been CLEARER not clear...

[stilllookingup]

Why do you presume they often don't come back?

[Intact]

Why do you presume they often don't come back?

Honestly I don't know... For one thing, how can I be certain this is WAW syndrome and of all the divorced people I know I cant think of one couple that got back together...

Do they often come back? She seems dead set at the moment that it's over. Actually I saw her last night and she seemed really upbeat. She's joined a book club and exercise class etc.

[stilllookingup]

I don't have an answer for you because I'm in a similar situation (DB-ing almost 3 months now) but I came across an really inspiring thread last night. Patience is the key.

It's really easy to just give up because you are hurting so much. Trust me when I say this. I can't count how many times I thought this isn't fair, how sad this is and I just want to give up. Choose who to talk to. My friends I talked to in the beginning (when I was REALLY hurting & miserable like you are now) see how hurting I was and they'd only tell me I deserve better and that really confused me. I have to remind myself I'm d-busting, not giving up until it's really done. So lately I choose to limit what I tell my friends and come here for support

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2316903&page=1

[GummyBear]

Dumb question ..... is it one on one counselling that is more timely

I know in my case, we both have individual issues first

[Pmac21]

Intact. Is your W going through a MLC?

[BTGG]

Thank you, stilllookingup for the suggestion to come here instead of family or friends. After a heart felt talk with my family for 4 hours they had literally convinced me to walk away from him. I spent the whole 4 hrs trying to convince them why I wanted to stay. Last night husband tipped the scales by pushing my buttons(my fault for allowing it) Needless to say, I didn't feel I wanted this emotional pain anymore and said I was seeing an attorney. I feel frustrated that I let my family influence my decision because in my heart, I really do want to save my marriage, I just haven't seen enough results after DB-ing and working on GAL for the last 3 months.It's painful.

[GummyBear]

Yes -- go alone at first